I don’t know if Katy Perry writes her own lyrics, but one thing is for sure, her music is ridiculously catchy. There is also an inspirational element to a lot of her songs which I thoroughly enjoy. The song Firework starts with some of the worst lyrics in history because I have never felt like a plastic bag and am not really sure what that means; however, the lyrics get better and there is a great message in the song. Let’s look at the following lyrics:
You just gotta ignite the light and let it shine
Just own the night like the 4th of July
'Cause, baby, you're a firework
Come on, show ‘em what you’re worth
Make ‘em go, “Aah, aah, aah”
As you shoot across the sky-y-y
Baby, you’re a firework
Come on, let your colors burst
Make ‘em go, “Aah, aah, aah”
You’re gonna leave ‘em all in awe, awe, awe
These lyrics kind of make you want to take over the world, right? Essentially Katy Perry is singing about the importance of being yourself. If you let others see who you are, they will be amazed by you.
In order to let the real you shine through, the protective shell needs to come off. This is where we all struggle. Our armor was put on for a reason and it protects us from others, so taking it off is not easy.
I recently had a conversation with a friend and said that I think the real me is a very likable person and I think others would agree, but I need to work harder to let others see who I really am.
When we are around our close friends we are automatically ourselves and our friends love the flawed parts of who we are so why are we worried about a bunch of people we do not know well? That’s easy, they might judge us! Unfortunately, whether we want them to or not, they are judging us anyway.
I once heard that the things about ourselves we hide from others or are most embarrassed about are actually the things people love about us. I thought that was interesting but I still protected myself. The good thing is, the older I get the more I embrace who I am and care less about others’ opinions about me.
Let’s face it, we are all jealous of those people that are themselves and are unapologetic about it and don’t care what we think! They seem so free. They are like those huge fireworks that start with a big bam and end up being a big sparkly masterpiece. Since we don’t let ourselves be seen, we are those fireworks that make a loud sound that make us anticipate a huge firework that ends up being a let down because the sound was more impressive than the sight. C’mon, you know which fireworks I’m talking about!
We were made to shine! Since we are all works in progress, we can do this together. As I think about it, hiding who I am is actually counterproductive because the truth comes out anyway. You can’t hide who you are forever. How many of us became friends with someone to later find out the person is nothing like they were pretending to be? In some cases the friendship endured but in others it doesn’t because the foundation of that friendship was a lie.
I’ve created a list of things we can do to help be ourselves:
* Know who you are and accept that. Maybe write down a description of yourself then say that description out loud to yourself. If you are embarrassed by your own description, you need to work on accepting yourself before anything.
*Have friends around when possible. You are more likely to be yourself if you are comfortable. Knowing you have someone there to have your back can make things much easier.
*Test the waters. Share something silly about yourself and see how others react. If they are cool about it, you may be making new friends. If they are rude, you don’t want to be friends with them anyway so who cares what they think.
*Get out of your own head. Most of the time we run scenarios in our heads about what may happen if we say something embarrassing. Other times we over-think things such as someone’s reaction. Quit making yourself crazy determining how you believe others will react or did react. When you over-think things, you see something that wasn’t actually there.
All of these things are challenging and this will not happen overnight. It’s going to take a long time to break the habit of protecting yourself, but it’s worth investing the time in trying. Progress may be slow but even small changes are huge victories.
In an attempt to be brave, here goes…
I love all things nerdy but have a special place in my heart for everything Harry Potter (I’m a Ravenclaw by the way)! I love my dog, Phoebe Buffay, more than anything in this world and am seriously considering naming my next dog Princess Consuela Bananahammock! I love when a movie makes me cry because I like feelings and have a lot of them! I often quote movies and LOVE reality TV, particularly anything on Bravo…holla! I’m extremely pale and sometimes joke that I’m so pale that I glow in the dark. When I’m in the privacy of my own home, I like to have dance parties where my dance moves resemble Elaine’s from Seinfeld! Finally, I can never laugh enough.
Go ahead and judge me, I don’t care. So that’s one small step for me…now it’s your turn. :)